The prostate gland is an erogenous zone for a lot of men. It’s an area that can create pleasurable, erotic feelings when stimulated. Other erogenous zones include (but are not limited to) the penis, scrotum, clitoris, labia, vagina, nipples, breasts, lips (of the mouth) and the anal area. Many guys have experienced intense pleasure and broader, more powerful orgasms
Stimulation of the prostate can trigger an orgasm, and sometimes this happens with prostate play alone, without any cock play. Although the prostate is not as easy to reach as some of the more readily available erogenous zones, you can find it by inserting a finger about 3–4 inches into the anus and pressing toward the front of the body. The sensation transmits easily through the wall of the rectum to the prostate, which is just on the other side. You can also apply indirect pressure to the prostate through the perineum (the area between the testicles and the anus). According to many men, it takes firm pressure to evoke prostate sensations. Light caresses may feel good, but usually won’t bring up the particular sensations that we are talking about. During arousal, the prostate gland swells, becoming physically larger. Frequently, this swelling is dramatic enough that the giver of a prostate massage can feel the difference with his or her finger. Many men report that they feel the most pleasure when they receive prostate massage at a high level of arousal, when the gland is very engorged. Likewise, too much pressure on an unengorged prostate may feel uninteresting, uncomfortable, or even painful. The swelling increases dramatically just before ejaculation, and many men can take very firm pressure leading up to and during climax.
It may come as a surprise to hear that the prostate can be an erogenous zone. Many men have never heard of the prostate, except in relation to cancer and uncomfortable rectal exams at the doctor’s office. Outside the gay community and other sexual subcultures, male-receptive anal penetration may be
considered taboo, so even though lots of men of all sexual orientations play with their prostate with a partner or during masturbation, many of them are not talking about it openly. As a result, the erotic nature of the prostate is not widely acknowledged in mainstream culture. We think this is a pity. However, this is changing as more and more male–female pairs are learning about and trying out this kind of play.
For some men, playing with their prostate feels good the very first time, while others may not feel pleasure right away. The prostate may be tender for the first few experiences, and for those who are new to anal penetration, there may be some discomfort associated with it. This tends to decrease with practice as the prostate and anus grow accustomed to being stimulated, and it is possible for someone who doesn’t feel much pleasure at first to come to like it if he tries it again at a later time. Initially, pressure on this area is unfamiliar and might feel very strange. The area may feel numb, or produce a tingling sensation. It is also very common to say that it makes you feel like you have to pee. If the stimulation continues, these feelings often give way to pleasure. Men have described the feelings of pleasure as being “almost unbearably intense” and “excruciatingly good.”
The Ultimate Guide To Prostate Pleasure by Charlie Clickman, PhD and Aislinn Emirzian, Cleis Press, 2013.